Return?

Well I haven’t been active on my blog for months! 

You know some things have happened where it was difficult for me to get it together to get on my blog. Also, I was having some thoughts regarding my blog and where I wanted to take it and what I should talk about.

The second, continues to weigh on my mind. I just wonder if people actually give a shit about whats happening in my life or what I find or don’t find helpful. However, I do find writing to be an effective form of self-expression for me. I’m not very good at art or other creative stuff. However, I can get lost in a book and do enjoy writing. I’ve always kept a journal. I have some dating back to when I didn’t even speak or write in English (mother tongue is French)! So back before I was even a teen! Journaling about fights with my siblings or fights with my parents. 

So anyways, I think I’m gonna continue on with my blog and just see where it takes me. No one that I know personally knows about my blog and reads it. I feel like that was one of my concerns at first as I am a private person when it comes to my problems, and I don’t like people knowing my personal problems. I just find I don’t trust a lot of people with my shit because you know they can and will fuck you over if it benefits them. 

Well that’s enough rambling haha I’m going to continue my blog and see where it takes me. Use it as a platform where I can express myself and motivate myself to set and attain my personal goals. I hope I will also be able to inspire others to do the same! 🙂 

Here’s to giving myself, and this blogging business, a second chance!! 🙂

The Truth About Pregnancy

Who remembers this quote and movie? If you said this is the crazy gym teacher from Mean Girls then you are right!! 

I feel as though this quote portrays how sex ed went back at my high school. It was already a taboo subject as I attended a Catholic school but they made a point to teach us sex-ed. I remember the gist of the class going somewhat like this… “Don’t have sex. However, if you do decide to have sex wear a condom. Condoms protect you from STDs and pregnancy. If you chose not to wear a condom you will become pregnant”. I also remember a lot of talk regarding Chlamydia and Herpes… They must have been the scarier STDs haha

Now that I am older and have become more knowledgeable about pregnancies I can call bullshit on this high school knowledge! The truth is that you MAY become pregnant if you have unprotected sex. 

From my personal experience, I was on birth control for about 10 years and with husband (have been together for 6 years now) we never really used condoms and I have never had a pregnancy scare while taking my “pill”. Then I stopped taking “The Pill” so that I could make an informed decision and become pregnant. Now you can imagine my disappointment every month when Aunt Flow came to visit. Now, I am not one to sit around and hang out with my self pity party of one haha so I started doing some reading and here are a few things I found interesting;

*You have a 15% chance to conceive each month

*Your window to conceive is VERY narrow… about 12-24 hours

*Sperm can live in you for an average of 3 days

*Best time to have sex to conceive is 4-5 days prior to ovulation (since the sperms live on inside of you)

*1/5 pregnancies end up in miscarriage, most of these before the mother realizes she is pregnant 

I feel as though this information has made me realize that pregnancy isn’t this super easy thing. Yes, the conceiving part is easy (and let’s be honest fun ;)), however the timing is what get’s difficult! Now add a husband who is away literally half the time! Cutting your chances to conceive in half! Plus when he is home, you’re just hoping he is home in the “window of opportunity”!! This information also game me some space to breathe. I don’t know about any other women out there who were not able to conceive “right away”  but I definitely had a feeling that it was my fault and that something HAD to be wrong with me because women should just be able to become pregnant right? It’s just what we do! Now I know “it’s what we do”, just need to “do it” at the right time!!